I wrote previously about slowing down in general, being one who naturally ‘adds things in’ to the schedule and ends up rushing about. A lot.
I ‘ve been experimenting recently, applying this to my training sessions.
Because I know the content and concepts so well, and because I’m working with very bright people, I tend to make assumptions. I assume that they will get things really quickly. And that I don’t need to repeat stuff. I’m always afraid they’ll be bored if I ‘labour the point’. Or they will think I’m being patronising.
When I was doing an Assertiveness skills recently with a small group I decided to slow right down. When I gave out a handout with the details on Passive, Aggressive and Assertive behaviour – which is a great resource with tons of useful information – I experimented with getting them to work on it in pairs. I asked them to actually read it out to each other and then to ‘teach ‘one style to the rest of the group. Normally I’d just give it out and either tell them it’s a great resource and suggest they look at it later, or get them to briefly look at it and ask any questions about it.
This added about an hour to the session by the time we’d finished the activity. The feedback was great and I could see that they had really understood the basic underlying beliefs/payoffs for each of the behaviours. They hadn’t felt patronised. And they weren’t bored. Hooray.
Happy sheets usually give a positive message about the sessions but that day I knew in my bones that a good job had been done.
So – slower with the concepts… Adding time in for them to read/discuss/absorb and question. It made a difference and i’ve been applying it where I can, since.